This week I spent a lot of time with my friend, Sherry, at her house with her two boys. They make a great distraction and help to get me out of the house. I've been cleaning, re-organizing, and getting all the chores done.
I realize that I miss the Mr. most when I'm getting ready for bed. Normally we would have the oddest conversation at that point in the day. I wish I could recall some of the exact ones we've had. We tend to go upstairs with the puppy, put her up on the bed, then play with her a bit while we snuggle. The Mr. tends to have a higher core temperature, meaning he becomes my furnace. We don't snuggle too much when we actually sleep because he gets too warm that I have to roll away! Now that the days are getting colder (40s at night!), I really miss that additional warmth.
The puppy seems to know he's missing. I'll bring her in from outside in the morning and she runs upstairs thinking the Mr.'s still in bed. She always liked to wake him up in the mornings!
I spent some time with other friends today. We met for coffee then hung out for a bit. They were going out for dinner and seeing a movie, but with having Sasha crated for 6 hours already, I couldn't crate her for 5-8 additional hours. She would be hog wild and starving by the time I would get back. So I opted out.
I'm thinking of having some wine and staying tucked in for the night (don't judge me). I'll snuggle with Sasha and watch some movies. Which reminds me that I really need to get a Netflix subscription.
I'm still amazed at how well I've been holding up. I haven't cried over having the Mr. gone since the night he left. I'll admit that I've been mopey, maybe even a little depressed, but I haven't: stayed in bed for days, am not living in my jammies, and eating ice cream by the half gallon. Though I'll admit I've been doing well on the wine bottles, but not alone!
How has your week been going?
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Well, I'd be lying if I said it'll ever get "easy." I'm a month in and I still have moments, but time seems to be going faster. I would definitely recommend getting Netflix. I've started all sorts of new shows since he left. Plus, you can set him up an account under your name and he can get movies mailed to him too (you can't stream instantly from Netflix over there). It takes longer of course, but my hubby likes it.
ReplyDeleteAnyways, congrats on having one week down!
Night time was always the hardest for me during our last deployment. It might sound weird, but having pets really helped me because I wasn't "alone" at night.
ReplyDeleteGetting ready for bed was always the worst part for me as well. Keep your chin up! :)
ReplyDeleteI have both a dog and a cat, but obviously it doesn't equate to having the hubs at home! I've had pets since he left for a year last year. They're nice during the day, but it still leaves lonely nights.
ReplyDeleteI've noticed that it's gotten easier since the day he left. I'll have my ups and downs, but overall, I'm not having issues. Night time really is the only time I miss him.
It sounds like you are coping pretty well so far! you and Frank sound like foster and I. the routine at night is almost exact, puppy and dog included. He is my heater, and we snuggle for about 5 mins before it becomes too hot! lol. I LOVE wine....pinot nior is my fav, and I could drink 3/4 of a bottle by myself (don't judge, i just LOVE the tase of good wine, and one or two glasses sometimes are not enough, so a third is in order...lol.)
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